The Most Courageous Thing I’ve Ever Done
“What’s the most courageous thing you’ve ever done?”
That’s Dennis Rainey’s favorite question to ask men and he’s certainly asked me once or twice. It’s a hard question to answer as I think God teaches us courage in small increments, continuously asking us to do something that takes just a bit more faith. So on one level, 
recent challenges such as interviewing a young man who wanted to date my daughter or talking to my wife about an area of conflict are probably on the list. Certainly deciding to quit a job and raise support in order to fulfill a calling has to be near or at the top.
But perhaps the most courageous steps are those we take at first, when we decide we’re going to be courageous. I recall an occasion in college when there was a very difficult conversation that needed to take place. Several friends and I knew it needed to be done but no one wanted to do it. I very distinctly remember the watershed moment when I said, “I’ll talk to them.” I feel like every courageous act I’ve ever done got started right then.
So what Courageous thing is God asking you to do today?
As you think about that, let me share with you a couple of courage-building opportunities for you. First is the opportunity to read Dennis Rainey’s new book Stepping Up: A Call to Courageous Manhood. In this book, Dennis encourages men to step up along the five steps of manhood (Boyhood, Adolescence, Manhood, Mentor, Patriarch) and to bring their sons and younger men along with them. The short book is written to say “You Can Do It!” and offer some tips for how. It is also available in eBook form for Kindle, Nook and iBook!
The second opportunity is to see the new film from Sherwood Pictures (makers of Facing the Giants and Fireproof) called Courageous. I’ve seen the film and it is a powerful call to godly manhood that will be an encouragement and a challenge to you and to men everywhere. The film opens on Sept 30 so make sure to go and take some friends on opening weekend as that has a big part in determining the success of the film.
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Get Right from the Start for FREE
FamilyLife has just released the latest resource from Dennis and Barbara Rainey and it is a great help for parents of young children on the issue of discipline. Best of all, it’s free online. Here’s how it’s described:
Your blender probably came with more instructions than your child, but here’s help. Parenting experts Dennis and Barbara Rainey give straight talk on applying biblical principles to the daily grind of parenting and the often exasperating, exhausting job of training and disciplining young children.
Whether you feel clueless, or could just use some encouragement, these easy-to-understand video sessions and viewer’s guide will equip you to raise kids that you like, and who honor God. You’ll find tried and true principles, strategies, and insight for getting it right … from the start.
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It’s About Time
We hear a lot about quality time with our kids.
In the midst of all that’s on our schedules today, it can be tough to get large quantities of time together, especially for larger families like ours. In the Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman talks about the fact that for some people, time equals love. So, if we don’t make sure to plan time with our kids then we’ll fail to meet a critical need.
That’s hard for a task-driven person like myself. I usually have more on my plate than I can possibly get done, but I also usually think I should do it all. That can tend to put me in a position of being reactive with family time rather than proactive. I’ve found a few tips to be helpful:
- I schedule regular date nights with my daughters, even from the earliest years. I did this with my oldest last night and these are often the best conversations. I try to leave as much time as possible because once a child starts opening up, you sure don’t want to stop them.
- We pick our kids activities with the goal of time together in mind. For us as a large family, we try to pick activities that multiple kids can do so that there’s less time shuttling and more time doing, and so that the activity can be experienced as a family, not just an individual. This doesn’t apply to everything, but where it does apply it has sure helped.
- Work spiritual learning time into the daily schedule. For our family, we have morning Bible study before Dad goes to work. This is a key time for discussing real life issues in the context of Scripture. This doesn’t take a lot of prep so don’t let that stop you. I just share what I’ve learned. At times, we’ve just read through Scripture together (don’t try to do too much at once, leave time for talking). Right now, we’re reading through John Piper’s What Jesus Demands from the World. Whatever. Just make sure you make the spiritual a priority
- I try to never run an errand by myself. I take a kid with me and we just talk.
That’s what I do. What’s worked for you? Share your thoughts below, or find me on facebook and join our new WalkerFamilyLife facebook group. Â
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